The idea of a first date can bring about a whole host of emotions for any individual. Excitement, paranoia and nervousness to name a few. However, it doesn’t at all have to be like that. Here’s a simple guide and tips that you can make your first the best it can be:
- BE YOURSELF
It can be easy to pick a persona for the first time interacting with someone. A persona that be more interesting and exciting than the real you. That’s all well and good if you’re not planning on seeing that person again. But if you are, you make want to stick to the authentic version of yourself because keeping an act can get tiring after a period of time. Also, you would want someone to fall in love with the real you, right?
- DON’T STRESS UNNECESSARILY
A bit of anxiety is natural on a first date – it’s half the fun. But you’ll want to get rid of the type of nervous feelings that make you stressed. Your date would sense this and in turn, feel uncomfortable as well. Remember to relax and take it easy on yourself. Often time, your date is more nervous than you are.
- ASK QUESTIONS
Try as much as possible to get to know your date. One major way you can achieve this is by asking questions. Get to know their favourite food, aspects of their childhood and so forth. On the same note, you can ask questions about goals, dreams and achievements. This will allow you to assess whether you are compatible enough to go the distance. Not only will you gain knowledge of your date but they will also feel that you have taken an interest in them.
- PAY ATTENTION AND LISTEN
On that same note, you make need to take a step back and let your date take centre stage. If you’re the type of person who tends to talk about yourself or simply you love to conversate the most, if you want to impress your date then you may need to stay silent for a while and practice your listening skills.
- COMPLETE YOUR FIRST DATE CORRECTLY
Did you feel the connection? Do you both have a lot in common? Did the conversations flow? If you feel like you created a bond with your date then be sure to let them know of your intentions. You could ask for a second session to establish feelings for each other. Once the date has ended and you’ve gone your separate ways, you could send a simple text stating you had a good time and can’t wait for the next date. This will
Regardless of the outcome, it’s important to remember that the worse they can do is not reciprocate the feeling but that’s okay. As the famous saying goes “There’s plenty of fish in the sea” and you’ll surely find your fish one day.