This has to be an amazing story about waiting for the right partner to come along and sweep you off your feet. A 35-year-old virgin has opened up about her struggle to find ‘the one’ – admitting that men often ghost her when she tells them she’s waiting for marriage to have sex.
Sonali Chandra, a dancer, model, and comedian from New Jersey, says she believes sex is a ‘sacred and special’ act, so she’s waiting until she has a ring on her finger to participate in it.
However, her abstinence has made it hard for her to date, since she revealed most of her potential suitors have run the other way after they found out that she was a virgin.
The dancer told Daily Star during a recent interview that almost every guy she has gone out with turned into a ‘jerk’ when she shared the news she’s never had sex.
A 35-year-old virgin has opened up about her struggle to find ‘the one’ – admitting that men often ghost her when she tells them she’s waiting for marriage to have sex
However, her abstinence has made it hard for her to date, since she revealed most of her potential suitors have run the other way after they found out that she was a virgin
‘I have only dated nine men – including three serious relationships – and all nine were jerks when they found out about my virginity,’ .
The dancer told Daily Star during a recent interview that almost every guy she has gone out with turned into a ‘jerk’ when she shared the news she’s never had sex. She is seen with one of her ex-boyfriends
‘I consider sex sacred and special. In fact, I don’t even like the word “sex,” I prefer “making love.” I’ll be ready [to make love] when I have a ring from “the one.”‘
As a child, Sonali said she grew up in a super-strict household. Her parents, both from India, didn’t allow her to have any sleepovers – and dating was strictly off the table.
She wasn’t even allowed to go to prom, and when it came time for college, she was told she couldn’t live in a dorm.
‘My strict upbringing absolutely has had a profound impact on my dating life. I was not allowed to socialize and dating was a big no-no,’
‘Dating is a life skill, and I was forbidden from developing that skill in my teenage and college years.’
Sonali’s love life was practically non-existent until her 20s – she had her first kiss at age 26 – and now, fast forward to present day, at age 35, she admitted that she still ‘has no clue how to date.’
She said she has also struggled with letting new people in due to her fears of meeting ‘a predator’ – which she believes stems from her sheltered childhood.
The 35-year-old admitted that she often feels ‘lonely,’ and has to ‘numb her emotional pain’ by staying busy.
‘I spend every weeknight exercising so I don’t feel lonely and I spend Saturday and Sunday nights alone in my studio apartment, which is very depressing,’ she said. ‘I go to sleep by 8pm to numb my emotional pain.’
In a desperate attempt to find her future-husband, Sonali went on the Lifetime dating show Five Guys A Week recently; but unfortunately, she didn’t form a strong connection with any of the guys.
‘In this provocative new social experiment, one adventurous single woman invites five eligible bachelors to move in with her for a week to see who is “The One,”’ a description of the show reads.
‘While living in cramped quarters, sharing a bathroom, and dividing up the housework, these men will need to be on their best behavior or miss out on the possibility of true love.’
While it didn’t work out in the end, Sonali stilled called the experience ‘surreal, fun, and relaxing.’
‘Since conventional dating methods haven’t worked for me as men get scared off when they learn I still have my V-card … I was seeking a new strategy to find love, hence why I joined Five Guys A Week,’ she explained.
The 35-year-old admitted that she often feels ‘lonely,’ and has to ‘numb her emotional pain’ by staying busy
Back in 2020, the model went on Dr. Phil to discuss her dating struggles, and she explained that her parents wanted her to agree to an arranged marriage after college
But she was ‘shocked and disgusted’ by the idea. Sonali (seen with her parents) said: ‘I would rather remain a virgin and be single the rest of my life than be married to the wrong guy,’
She also told the talk show host that she couldn’t understand why men kept leaving her.
‘I’m confused and perplexed. I have all these great qualities. Why is it so tough for me to find the one who won’t be scared off when I tell him he would be my first and hopefully only?’ she asked.
Despite her bad luck so far, Sonali is still hopeful that she’ll find her soulmate, and has no plans to give up any time soon.
‘I am looking for a chivalrous gentleman who is moral and ethical, handsome, ambitious, health-oriented, and will treat me like a Queen,’ she dished to Daily Star. ‘I want what Priyanka Chopra has with Nick Jonas.’
In world that kind of shames you for having high requirement from your would be partner, we hope that Sonali will finally hit the jackpot or else like our mineral water she will be untouched by mankind.