Some women choose to be the “side chick” in a relationship with a taken man for various reasons, often rooted in personal experiences, emotional needs, or lifestyle preferences. For some, the appeal lies in the lack of commitment and responsibility that comes with being a main partner. They enjoy the excitement of secrecy, the thrill of an affair, and the benefits of companionship without the obligations of a traditional relationship. Others may have been hurt in past relationships and prefer an arrangement where they feel less vulnerable or emotionally invested.
Another reason some women willingly take on this role is the material or financial perks that come with it. A taken man, especially one in a committed relationship or marriage, may go out of his way to provide gifts, financial support, or lavish experiences to keep the affair hidden. Some women see this as a transactional relationship, where they receive attention, luxury, or financial stability in exchange for their discretion. In these cases, emotions may be secondary to personal gain, making the arrangement more about convenience than love.
However, for some women, the choice is not always purely strategic. Emotional connections can develop even when they know the man is taken. They may believe they have a deeper bond with him than his primary partner, hoping that one day he will leave his relationship to be with them. Whether driven by romance, self-interest, or emotional detachment, these women make a conscious decision to engage in these relationships, often knowing the risks involved, including heartbreak, secrecy, and the potential fallout if the affair is exposed.